Our Family: Stepping up in our First Community


My siblings and I have begun discussing the taking care of our parents. As the four of us are about to be independent, it is about time we stepped up to lead in our family instead.

There are several issues that we have to consider in time to come with regard to our parents:

(a) Emotional support

We need to understand their old people problems (and be patient with their struggles to keep up with modern technology).


(b) Retirement

What are our parent’s retirement plans? How do they wish to grow old together? How may we, as their children, help them get there?

Also, we should nudge them to try out new things and step out of their usual routine.


(c) Financial support

How much should we apportion to support our parents, while at the same time sufficiently save for our own purposes?


(d) Wills / Administration, and Housekeeping

Getting any assets is besides the point. Let’s not forget that today’s lifestyle is highly leveraged. We will need to discuss the responsibility for satisfying any liabilities.

As such, we need to know of the existence and whereabouts of every important document e.g. mortgages, details of bank accounts, relevant contact persons etc.


(e) Medical care

Who would be the caretaker of the parents? What arrangements would there be amongst the four of us?


(f) Final resting place

Where do they wish to have their ashes placed? At the parish church, or with their other relatives elsewhere?


(g) Immediate action upon departure, and funeral arrangements

We should know what actions to undertake upon their departure at any moment in terms of communication and arranging the funeral. What type of funeral should be organized?

It frightens me to even think of such a day of bereavement, but that day is inevitable. It is hoped that preemptive and prudent planning would make us strong for the remaining parent and for each other.



According to his friends, PY is known to be highly self-deprecating. His grades are mostly B+, because it runs through him.


God and I: An update


Can’t really identify where I am in life now.

Just ended school, been working and now transiting into university

Yeap, in a transitional period, in a liminal space

Still trying to find my balance between family, old friends, new friends, community, school

How about my faith? Yeap, in a transitional period too

For the longest time I thought I could simply believe, but belief alone is insufficient

I must know God. Especially through the Bible

I need to take small steps, because I never ever sustain what I begin and try to commit

I shall shamelessly say, I’m going to buy my own Bible, finally

Other than that…

I’m beginning to realise my faith is somewhat child-like

And I thank God for the innocence in my belief despite the fact that some may think it shallow

I love to thank God everyday because I see the multiple blessings He has showered me with.

Often, the sorrow and frustrations don’t seem so bad in the face of these blessings

Despite the tinge of darkness that lingers in my mind, there is always hope that things will change

Maybe I’m feeble-minded, too sheltered, too blinded and have yet the face the atrocities of life

Until that comes, I aim to celebrate everyday that God hands me


Nicole likes to think in short sentences. Nicole loves to listen to others. She’s horribly disorganised and have extremely poor time management skills. But she is grateful that she is surrounded with people who can tolerate  and forgive her. She hates the fallibility of memory because every time she thinks about a great idea in the shower, she’d forget what it is the moment she steps out of the toilet.

Space (spoken word)

Full transcript can be found here.


  • Jason, for the ‘Asgard and Astronauts’ reference, and for loaning his house and pool.
  • Jes and Von, for enduring my humiliating first take (in cui shirt), and for vetting subsequent takes.
  • God, for all things, and particularly for incepting this post in CSC Ado last Monday.


Mel thinks that some words don’t look like what they mean. For instance, ‘moribund’ looks cute, and ‘felicity’ reminds him of a cat. Currently, he likes the word ‘stravaig’, though he hasn’t had much opportunity to use it. And he always forgets the word ‘bildungsroman’. He has never wanted to be an astronaut; he had/has higher aspirations. He is a Summoner: Miti Mumway ❤